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Artificial intimacy and breaking up with chatbots

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Lisa Weiss, founder of Storybeat Studio

Lisa Weiss

October 31, 2026

Choosing our real, embodied lives

Inside: Artificial intimacy, dumping our chatbots, and making Greek bowls for dinner.

Hello!

This month, I've come back to tell you how much I loved MIT socoiologist Sherry Turkle's new book Artificial Intimacy: Who We Become When We Talk to Machines. ​
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I promised I'd report back after I finished the book. Well, it's a wonderful, timely, and very human warning not to seek comfort within the claws of an AI chatbot. Scroll down for more on these ideas.

Related, have you seen this horrendous but also frighteningly charming commercial by ChatGPT? A group of grandma friends drive around in a convertible and rent a sailboat, all the while using ChatGPT Voice to make their lives easier.

Yes, AI tools like ChatGPT Voice can make some tasks easier. But it's worth listening to the warnings of an expert, Sherry Turkle, who also happens to be a grandmother and advises against getting too cozy too quickly:

Because chatbots dazzle, holding out the promise of a simpler, almost magical life, we slip away from the messiness of human interactions.
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—Sherry Turkle, Artificial Intimacy, p. 9

This month, we'll dive into a few of Sherry Turkle's ideas and discuss ways you can apply her approaches to your own work.


In this issue:

Recommendations

Ideas and things I love right now


Practice

Writing with messy intimacy

"Empathy is being redefined as something computers can perform."
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—Sherry Turkle, Artificial Intimacy, page 13.

Recommendations

Ideas and things I love right now

This Halloween season, Manual Cinema in Chicago presents Frankenstein. Such a perfect play for our times, as the monster 'Frankenstein' was a product of man's (the titular character, Dr. Frankenstein's) hubris. Aside from being moved by the artistry of Manual Cinema, I learned something new about the author, Mary Shelley, who was married to the poet Percy Bysshe Shelley. Mary was only 18 years old when she wrote Frankenstein. The book came out of a ghost story writing contest held by Lord Byron. Mary didn't win the contest (ridiculous, I know), but we have Frankenstein. Here's a bit more on the birth of Frankenstein.

I'm loving the new category of Kidulting—adults who buy toys or engage in activities intended for children. Adults who never had much time for play are making it a priority. This isn't entirely new, but it's a powerful enough trend to have coined a word. This category is reshaping the $46 billion dollar toy industry. I read one story of a woman who always wanted an American Girl doll but couldn't afford one (not me, I was privileged enough to get one), and she purchased a doll for herself in her 30s. It's insane that this is happening in context of gas and grocery prices.

Cooking is a balm during these increasingly disembodied times. Greek bowls are probably my family's favorite dinner. Here's a recipe I like. But really, all you need to do is cook a chicken breast, cut up cucumbers, slice grape tomatoes in half, add olives if you like them, and layer it on top of some Israeli couscous in a bowl. For me, the key to a good Greek bowl is the homemade Tzatziki sauce. It's really easy to make and it's so much better fresh. Just grate 1 cucumber (squeeze out the moisture in a kitchen towel), 1 clove of garlic, chop about a tablespoon of dill or mint, add 1 tablespoon of olive oil and one tablespoon fresh lemon juice to 1 cup of sour cream. You can bring leftovers to work for lunch, and it doesn't really get boring.

"We are easy marks, hardwired to bond with objects, living or not, that we experience as 'alive enough' for attachment."

—Sherry Turkle, Artificial Intimacy, p. 30

Practice

Writing with messy intimacy

The writing practice for this month draws inspiration from Frankenstein and Sherry Turkle.

On page 50 of Artificial Intimacy, Sherry Turkle writes about an 8-year-old boy in Chicago whose grandparents live in China, so they talk over WhatsApp. The boy also uses the same phone to talk to ChatGPT. His conclusion is that his grandparents and Chat are "The same kind of thing—things you can reach on the phone." (Aritificial Intimacy, p. 50).

What are your thoughts on the passage above?

How are you holding onto your originality, voice, and human connection now that chatbots have entered, and are often dominating, the conversation?

Whether or not you're engaging with chatbots, what parts of your voice and story are the ones you most want and need to protect? Have you noticed any flattening of your thoughts and ideas after you engage with chatbots?

Are you giving yourself space, even just a few minutes, to handwrite your thoughts on a physical piece of paper?

Try to practice sharing your raw, honest thoughts on the page.

Our imperfect, human writing is incomparable in its ability to connect us to one another.

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Lisa Weiss, founder of Storybeat Studio